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Posted October 20, 2011

Last week I flew out to California for the National Eating Disorders Association Annual Conference. As the lights of Los Angeles came into view outside the plane’s window, I couldn’t help but think about Melissa. She always talked about moving there when she was healthy, when she’d beaten ED, determined to fulfill her dream of making movies. As the distant lights blurred through my tears, I felt that I was there to carry out her dream.

View from my hotel window

As a first-time exhibitor, my perspective was very different from past conference experiences. Misty and I sat behind the Someday Melissa table, our beautiful banner adorning the front, the film’s poster standing on an easel at one side, pamphlets and wrist-bands spread across the top. People began stopping to talk.

Judy and Misty at the Someday Melissa booth

Before I continue, I need to explain the uniqueness of the NEDA conference. Most professional conferences are just that: conferences for professionals in a given field. In 2003, NEDA made the groundbreaking decision to bring parents and families together with scientific researchers and eating disorder professionals at their annual conference, “Building Connections and Mobilizing Families, Educators, Advocates and Professionals.” Thus began a unique sharing of information, resources and perspectives that continues to this day.

“Someday Melissa” DVD for sale at the Gurze table

When you have a child or loved one battling an eating disorder, there is a sense of isolation that engulfs you. You hear it over and over. I know that feeling. I lived it. Part of it is the amount of physical and emotional energy required to deal with the illness: the doctor, therapy, nutrition appointments feel never-ending; but the other part is the perceived stigma and shame attached to eating disorders.

When parents and families attend the conference, they say it’s like meeting people from the same foreign land, who speak the same strange language, one they never taught you in school. It’s a place where parents can share experiences without feeling shame or embarrassment. Where you can ask a glowing, healthy young woman or young man what finally enabled them to conquer ED after years of illness. Where a mother can go up to a top researcher and ask “what are your studies showing?” Where a husband can comfortably approach the director of an eating disorder treatment center and ask questions. Where sisters and brothers meet others who lived the same bizarre life of battles at the dinner table, locked food cabinets, stolen money, and estrangement from their siblings.

People began stopping by our table – parents, therapists, nutritionists. Many of them knew about Someday Melissa and were excited to learn they could buy the DVD. Others wanted to learn more or inquire about scheduling a screening or to have me come speak. People still struggling came to tell me that Melissa’s story is inspiring them to continue their fight against ED. Some just wanted to give me a hug. It was emotionally exhausting and energizing at the same time.

Meeting supporters and my first DVD signing! 

As Misty and I packed up to fly home for a screening of Someday Melissa that was scheduled for the next day, I knew in my heart that Melissa’s story, her dream of “making a movie that will change lives”, was coming true.

~ Judy





Posted October 5, 2011

Sunday, October 2nd was the first time I participated in a fundraising walk and this one held special meaning for me.   It was the National Eating Disorders Association’s 3rd annual NYC Walk to raise awareness of eating disorders.

The day started early, at Foley Square in downtown Manhattan, with Diana Williams of WABC News hosting the event and special guest, NEDA Ambassador, Emme, greeting the crowd. Between the live music, expo and other events, the most special thing for me was listening to the speakers.  People from many different generations stood up in front of the huge crowd and shared their stories of recovery, hope and healthy living.  Each story was unique and each was inspirational.

One of the best parts of the day, personally, was listening to The Falk Sisters perform their song, “Deadly Beauty”.  The lyrics really spoke to me and reminded me of my past, of trying so hard to be perfect until it nearly did me in.  Most of you can probably relate.  More important was the song’s message, that we’re all already beautiful.  Sometimes we can’t see it, but we are and you should all remember that each and every day.

After all these uplifting and inspiring messages, the actual walk itself across the Brooklyn Bridge began. The sun was shining on the hundreds of people walking to raise awareness of eating disorders.  Many people walked to support a friend or family member battling ED, others in recognition of their own recovery and continued determination to speak out.  Still others walked in honor of someone lost to ED. Everyone’s shirt said something different but it was all the same message:  Let’s Talk About.  You’re beautiful.  The Someday Melissa team, with her mother Judy in the lead, walked in Melissa’s honor wearing Someday Melissa t-shirts.

Then to top off an already amazing day was the huge amount of interest in the Someday Melissa documentary.  Scores of people came up to our table to tell us they’d heard about Melissa’s story and couldn’t wait to see the film.  They asked about screenings and release dates.  There was a lot of interest from other organizations who were there.   They were excited to hear the DVD was finally available and they couldn’t wait to go home and order it.  Melissa’s story is spreading fast, far and wide, which I love because it means that finally people are ready to take notice and take a stand against ED.

So when you’re having a rough day, just think about the walk (whether you were there or not) and remember how many people are thinking about you, yes YOU, and showing their support.